Sometimes I feel almost obligated to be dating. I am not monogamous. I write about non-monogamy. Am I less credible if I only have one partner? Of course, the answer is no. Regardless, every few months I try to put some effort into meeting potential new romantic partners. I tidy up my online profile, add… Continue reading Tales From the Field
Four weeks is a long time. I’ve done long distance before. My ex-husband and I did it for two years. It was different. Every night we’d talk on the phone. I spent my free time doing school work and watching TV because I hadn’t figured out masturbation yet which blows my mind now. We never… Continue reading Celebrating the Holidays with Bells and Bows
Stories are important. The characters on screens and the pages of books and comics are there to validate social customs. Children learn much of what they know about how the world works from stories. For the past century, heterosexual monogamy has been the predominant theme surrounding romantic relationships. While it may seem this theme has… Continue reading Review: Professor Marston and the Wonder Women (Spoilers)
Last week I listened to an episode of the podcast Hidden Brain that explained how humans are truly terrible at predicting their own future, in particular when it comes to guessing how the outcome of a difficult decision will make us feel. The guest host was social psychologist Dan Gilbert who teaches at Harvard. Whether… Continue reading You Won’t Know Until You Try
A few months ago, my partner and I stumbled upon an estate sale on our way back from looking at potential houses to rent. Like all estate sales, the inhabitants’ possessions were up for grabs to the lowest bidder, often displayed where said possession had been for decades. Everything from decorative broaches missing beads to… Continue reading A Secret on a Bookshelf
Until recently, Western culture in the United States only had room for males and females. They were only allowed to entangle sexually with the opposite sex. Once a ring was involved, they were stuck with each other for life. Thanks to the indoctrination of the church, any variation in sexual identification or relationship preference were… Continue reading Is Nonmonogamy an Orientation?
Online dating has created a whole new world of problems and potential adventures for those who want to start a new relationship. There are countless articles out there providing tips on how to navigate these strange waters. Limit the amount of information you give out about yourself up front. Meet in a public location. Don’t… Continue reading Dating With Purpose
The ability to worry is a curse on the human species. Sure, other animals may stress about immediate needs like food or shelter, but we have taken the ability to fear the unknown and perfected it to an art. We’ve morphed a necessary survival skill into a crippling stream of conscience that allows us to… Continue reading Living in Moments
Dating has a bad rap. It’s all over my Facebook feed. Clickbait for those who have yet to find their one true love. I’m sure because of the nature of my research Google goes out of its way to ensure I see everything anyone with an internet connection has to say about dating these days.… Continue reading Is Dating Really As Bad As People Say?
I recently gave a presentation for Utah Sex Positive Education about how to get what you want in your relationships. One of the most important points was communication is essential from the onset of a relationship because people are dating for different reasons. For a long time, the end game was always marriage and a… Continue reading Use Your Words