Dating 101, Science of Poly

How Body Image Affects Your Sex Life

If you're having relationships woes, particularly in the bedroom, one problem you might not have considered is body image. A recent study discovered that the image you have of yourself can affect your sex life. If you don't feel comfortable in your skin, you won't be able to truly enjoy yourself when it's all you're… Continue reading How Body Image Affects Your Sex Life

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Marriage Doesn’t Hold the Market on Happiness

You don't have to spend much time on any polyamory platform before you see someone lamenting over their singlehood or lack of an additional partner. If only they could find that special someone or someones to spend the rest of their life with, all their woes would be over. To their credit, romantic comedies and… Continue reading Marriage Doesn’t Hold the Market on Happiness

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Preface to Catch & Release

“If I only knew, that happy ever after wasn’t you.” – Gin Wigmore 3/1/2014 The first time I saw them together, my heart stopped. It was a shock, even though the sexually charged atmosphere of the past two weekends left this outcome inevitable. This story began with marriage. At least for half its characters, fading… Continue reading Preface to Catch & Release

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Preface to Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life

“If I only knew, that happy ever after wasn’t you.” – Gin Wigmore 3/1/2014 The first time I saw them together, my heart stopped. It was a shock, even though the sexually charged atmosphere of the past two weekends left this outcome inevitable. This story began with marriage. At least for half its characters, fading… Continue reading Preface to Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life

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‘Tis the Season for Gobbles and Squabbles

The holidays can be challenging when you're in a relationship. When you have multiple relationships, your trouble can be exponential. Families can be possessive about their holiday traditions so the 18 hours of festive cheer are fought over like the last turkey in the grocery store the night before Thanksgiving. When I was married, my… Continue reading ‘Tis the Season for Gobbles and Squabbles

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Review: Professor Marston and the Wonder Women (Spoilers)

Stories are important. The characters on screens and the pages of books and comics are there to validate social customs. Children learn much of what they know about how the world works from stories. For the past century, heterosexual monogamy has been the predominant theme surrounding romantic relationships. While it may seem this theme has… Continue reading Review: Professor Marston and the Wonder Women (Spoilers)

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The Poignant Nature of Love

Roger met Susy at the senior center. Her silver hair was neatly kept in tight curls around her head, and she always wore a silk scarf around her neck. She liked John Wayne movies and visiting with the staff about their families. Roger started sitting by her whenever he could to strike up a conversation. He… Continue reading The Poignant Nature of Love

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You Won’t Know Until You Try

Last week I listened to an episode of the podcast Hidden Brain that explained how humans are truly terrible at predicting their own future, in particular when it comes to guessing how the outcome of a difficult decision will make us feel. The guest host was social psychologist Dan Gilbert who teaches at Harvard. Whether… Continue reading You Won’t Know Until You Try

Catch and Release

Two and a half years ago I got this crazy idea in my head to write a book. I'd found myself unexpectedly single and wondered if there was a better way to experience romantic relationships. There are plenty books about love and dating out there already but unfortunately many are written with outdated perspectives and… Continue reading

Catch and Release

Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life Update

Two and a half years ago I got this crazy idea in my head to write a book. I'd found myself unexpectedly single and wondered if there was a better way to experience romantic relationships. There are plenty books about love and dating out there already but unfortunately many are written with outdated perspectives and… Continue reading Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life Update