Exploring polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy
“If I only knew, that happy ever after wasn’t you.” – Gin Wigmore 3/1/2014 The first time I saw them together, my heart stopped. It was a shock, even though the sexually charged atmosphere of the past two weekends left this outcome inevitable. This story began with marriage. At least for half its characters, fading… Continue reading Preface to Catch & Release
Once upon a time, there were two sisters who lived in an orphanage in Eastern Europe. They had what we call today an intellectual disability. What it meant to them was they got to watch all the friends they ever made in the orphanage leave with families while they were left behind. Until one day… Continue reading Once Upon a Time
Whether or not you ascribe to New Year’s resolutions, it’s hard not to do a brief evaluation of the state of your life compared to where it was at the beginning of last year when the new year rolls around. Of utmost importance to many of us is the state of our relationships, particularly those… Continue reading Out With the Old
My book will be out soon so I thought I'd share some of the gems that helped me get to where I am today. I can't wait until my book gets to join the shelf!!
Sometimes I feel almost obligated to be dating. I am not monogamous. I write about non-monogamy. Am I less credible if I only have one partner? Of course, the answer is no. Regardless, every few months I try to put some effort into meeting potential new romantic partners. I tidy up my online profile, add… Continue reading Tales From the Field
Four weeks is a long time. I’ve done long distance before. My ex-husband and I did it for two years. It was different. Every night we’d talk on the phone. I spent my free time doing school work and watching TV because I hadn’t figured out masturbation yet which blows my mind now. We never… Continue reading Celebrating the Holidays with Bells and Bows
The holidays can be challenging when you're in a relationship. When you have multiple relationships, your trouble can be exponential. Families can be possessive about their holiday traditions so the 18 hours of festive cheer are fought over like the last turkey in the grocery store the night before Thanksgiving. When I was married, my… Continue reading ‘Tis the Season for Gobbles and Squabbles
The importance of knowing what you want in a relationship and noticing when someone is not on the same page cannot be overstated. A few years ago, I met T.J. the D.J. on OKCupid. I’d been online dating for a couple weeks and was going on several dates a week. T.J. the D.J. was, among… Continue reading How Not To Make Me Fall in Love
A couple weeks ago the lights went out in our apartment. We spent the evening reading to each other using only candlelight. So romantic!
Stories are important. The characters on screens and the pages of books and comics are there to validate social customs. Children learn much of what they know about how the world works from stories. For the past century, heterosexual monogamy has been the predominant theme surrounding romantic relationships. While it may seem this theme has… Continue reading Review: Professor Marston and the Wonder Women (Spoilers)
A Polyamorous Love Story 