Dating 101, Science of Poly

Marriage Doesn’t Hold the Market on Happiness

You don't have to spend much time on any polyamory platform before you see someone lamenting over their singlehood or lack of an additional partner. If only they could find that special someone or someones to spend the rest of their life with, all their woes would be over. To their credit, romantic comedies and… Continue reading Marriage Doesn’t Hold the Market on Happiness

Catch and Release, Dating 101, Story Time

What They Don’t Tell You About Noise Reduction

So today I am going to tell you about some issues I’m having with one of my partners. I’ve talked about them a lot, in fact, I’ve hardly shut up about them since I started this blog. While there were definitely some challenges at the beginning, recently we’ve really hit a rough patch. Last night… Continue reading What They Don’t Tell You About Noise Reduction

Catch and Release, Sexy Pics

Self Love

Self-love is all the rage.  I've been doing this for years, but I called it bribing myself to get shit done. I have four tattoos all associated with major life events. This one is my present to myself for completing my book Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life. It… Continue reading Self Love

Catch and Release

My New Book Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life

Catch and Release How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life is officially released!! For now, it's only available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble's websites, but soon I will have signed copies and swag available through the nonmonogblog website. For now, you can head here to buy a copy: Catch & Release: How I… Continue reading My New Book Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life

Science of Poly

Out With the Old

Whether or not you ascribe to New Year’s resolutions, it’s hard not to do a brief evaluation of the state of your life compared to where it was at the beginning of last year when the new year rolls around. Of utmost importance to many of us is the state of our relationships, particularly those… Continue reading Out With the Old

Story Time

How Not To Make Me Fall in Love

The importance of knowing what you want in a relationship and noticing when someone is not on the same page cannot be overstated. A few years ago, I met T.J. the D.J. on OKCupid. I’d been online dating for a couple weeks and was going on several dates a week. T.J. the D.J. was, among… Continue reading How Not To Make Me Fall in Love

Science of Poly

Review: Professor Marston and the Wonder Women (Spoilers)

Stories are important. The characters on screens and the pages of books and comics are there to validate social customs. Children learn much of what they know about how the world works from stories. For the past century, heterosexual monogamy has been the predominant theme surrounding romantic relationships. While it may seem this theme has… Continue reading Review: Professor Marston and the Wonder Women (Spoilers)

Science of Poly

The Poignant Nature of Love

Roger met Susy at the senior center. Her silver hair was neatly kept in tight curls around her head, and she always wore a silk scarf around her neck. She liked John Wayne movies and visiting with the staff about their families. Roger started sitting by her whenever he could to strike up a conversation. He… Continue reading The Poignant Nature of Love

Science of Poly

You Won’t Know Until You Try

Last week I listened to an episode of the podcast Hidden Brain that explained how humans are truly terrible at predicting their own future, in particular when it comes to guessing how the outcome of a difficult decision will make us feel. The guest host was social psychologist Dan Gilbert who teaches at Harvard. Whether… Continue reading You Won’t Know Until You Try