Exploring polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy
The holidays can be challenging when you're in a relationship. When you have multiple relationships, your trouble can be exponential. Families can be possessive about their holiday traditions so the 18 hours of festive cheer are fought over like the last turkey in the grocery store the night before Thanksgiving. When I was married, my… Continue reading ‘Tis the Season for Gobbles and Squabbles
The importance of knowing what you want in a relationship and noticing when someone is not on the same page cannot be overstated. A few years ago, I met T.J. the D.J. on OKCupid. I’d been online dating for a couple weeks and was going on several dates a week. T.J. the D.J. was, among… Continue reading How Not To Make Me Fall in Love
A couple weeks ago the lights went out in our apartment. We spent the evening reading to each other using only candlelight. So romantic!
Stories are important. The characters on screens and the pages of books and comics are there to validate social customs. Children learn much of what they know about how the world works from stories. For the past century, heterosexual monogamy has been the predominant theme surrounding romantic relationships. While it may seem this theme has… Continue reading Review: Professor Marston and the Wonder Women (Spoilers)
Roger met Susy at the senior center. Her silver hair was neatly kept in tight curls around her head, and she always wore a silk scarf around her neck. She liked John Wayne movies and visiting with the staff about their families. Roger started sitting by her whenever he could to strike up a conversation. He… Continue reading The Poignant Nature of Love
Last week I listened to an episode of the podcast Hidden Brain that explained how humans are truly terrible at predicting their own future, in particular when it comes to guessing how the outcome of a difficult decision will make us feel. The guest host was social psychologist Dan Gilbert who teaches at Harvard. Whether… Continue reading You Won’t Know Until You Try
A few months ago, my partner and I stumbled upon an estate sale on our way back from looking at potential houses to rent. Like all estate sales, the inhabitants’ possessions were up for grabs to the lowest bidder, often displayed where said possession had been for decades. Everything from decorative broaches missing beads to… Continue reading A Secret on a Bookshelf
Until recently, Western culture in the United States only had room for males and females. They were only allowed to entangle sexually with the opposite sex. Once a ring was involved, they were stuck with each other for life. Thanks to the indoctrination of the church, any variation in sexual identification or relationship preference were… Continue reading Is Nonmonogamy an Orientation?
I recently stumbled upon a show called Z: The Beginning of Everything (there will be spoilers). The series is about the tumultuous relationship between Zelda Fitzgerald and her husband the late, great F. Scott Fitzgerald. Of his, or should I say their work, I’ve only read The Great Gatsby. I’m enamored by the roaring 20s.… Continue reading Love in the Time of Jazz
Two and a half years ago I got this crazy idea in my head to write a book. I'd found myself unexpectedly single and wondered if there was a better way to experience romantic relationships. There are plenty books about love and dating out there already but unfortunately many are written with outdated perspectives and… Continue reading Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life Update
A Polyamorous Love Story 