Exploring polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy
Online dating has created a whole new world of problems and potential adventures for those who want to start a new relationship. There are countless articles out there providing tips on how to navigate these strange waters. Limit the amount of information you give out about yourself up front. Meet in a public location. Don’t… Continue reading Dating With Purpose
The ability to worry is a curse on the human species. Sure, other animals may stress about immediate needs like food or shelter, but we have taken the ability to fear the unknown and perfected it to an art. We’ve morphed a necessary survival skill into a crippling stream of conscience that allows us to… Continue reading Living in Moments
It never ceases to baffle me how differently people use the same words. The current administration has demonstrated this with painstaking clarity. However, when it comes to personal liberties and the pursuit of happiness, confusion around the word freedom goes back centuries. The founding fathers wanted freedom from the monarchy, specifically for themselves and other… Continue reading The Land of the Freedoms I Approve
Everything about the way I do relationships has changed over the past few years. Monogamy is out the door. I no longer worry if I could raise children with a potential partner because I do not plan on having kids. My sexual preferences play a much more important role. The only people I imagine growing… Continue reading The Edge
I turn 32 today. My partner was sweet enough to promise me this morning that when I soon enter the geriatric ward and start to lose my senses he will pretend to be Harry Dresden and move things around my room when I’m not looking then say it was magic. He’s a keeper. I work… Continue reading A Love Story Almost Lost
Dating has a bad rap. It’s all over my Facebook feed. Clickbait for those who have yet to find their one true love. I’m sure because of the nature of my research Google goes out of its way to ensure I see everything anyone with an internet connection has to say about dating these days.… Continue reading Is Dating Really As Bad As People Say?
My upcoming book Catch and Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life delves into the science of love. Researching and writing on this topic was alarmingly insightful, and I enjoyed it thoroughly. My book is on its way to being published, and I find myself missing the research as I fight my… Continue reading Variation in Human Sexuality
While at RelateCon, I listened to a couple presentations by Cunning Minx and Lusty Guy, co-hosts of the podcast Polyamory Weekly. There were many useful nuggets of information and one of my favorites was writing a user manual for yourself which can be embedded in a dating profile. Ideally, it will allow potential suitors to… Continue reading Dating Profile User Manual
Doing the research for my book was one of my favorite parts of the writing process. I read many books, journal articles, and online nonsense. One of my favorites was The Myth of Monogamy by David P. Barash and Judith Eve Lipton. The Myth of Monogamy is a concise critique on the idea of humans… Continue reading Review: The Myth of Monogamy
My first legit vibrator was a Fun Factory Tiger G4. It was the toy responsible for my first ever clitoral orgasm. One day post terrible breakup, it stopped working mid playtime. In my frustration, I started banging it against the floor. By some miracle of electronics, it came back to life. Over the next six… Continue reading My Little Friend
A Polyamorous Love Story 