Exploring polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy
Times are changing. More and more people are choosing to get off the beaten path that leads to death do us part. If current rates hold steady, 25% of people currently age 25-34 will never marry. Fortunately, for those of us who want to have relationships without the pressure and legal obligations of a ring, shacking… Continue reading Cohabitation On The Rise
The ability to worry is a curse on the human species. Sure, other animals may stress about immediate needs like food or shelter, but we have taken the ability to fear the unknown and perfected it to an art. We’ve morphed a necessary survival skill into a crippling stream of conscience that allows us to… Continue reading Living in Moments
It never ceases to baffle me how differently people use the same words. The current administration has demonstrated this with painstaking clarity. However, when it comes to personal liberties and the pursuit of happiness, confusion around the word freedom goes back centuries. The founding fathers wanted freedom from the monarchy, specifically for themselves and other… Continue reading The Land of the Freedoms I Approve
Everything about the way I do relationships has changed over the past few years. Monogamy is out the door. I no longer worry if I could raise children with a potential partner because I do not plan on having kids. My sexual preferences play a much more important role. The only people I imagine growing… Continue reading The Edge
Dating has a bad rap. It’s all over my Facebook feed. Clickbait for those who have yet to find their one true love. I’m sure because of the nature of my research Google goes out of its way to ensure I see everything anyone with an internet connection has to say about dating these days.… Continue reading Is Dating Really As Bad As People Say?
There are some really great advantages to ethical non-monogamy. For me, what it comes down to is having a wonderful man who knows me eerily well and satisfies me continuously in the bedroom while simultaneously being able to have random fun adventures with strangers. Last week I was driving back from visiting my lovely family… Continue reading Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too
I recently gave a presentation for Utah Sex Positive Education about how to get what you want in your relationships. One of the most important points was communication is essential from the onset of a relationship because people are dating for different reasons. For a long time, the end game was always marriage and a… Continue reading Use Your Words
I have loved wearing sexy underthings since my purity ring was still firmly on my ring finger. My first boyfriend who knew I was a virgin was shocked when he first laid eyes on a pair of lacy pink panties. A good girl like me hiding sexy garments beneath my hippy skirts, who could imagine… Continue reading A Few Thoughts Concerning Lingerie
Spoilers!!! This post contains spoilers for the popular fantasy series Wheel of Time. Stories are important because the values of a culture are deeply interwoven into the characters and plot twists. No one sits a five-year-old down and tells them monogamy is the socially acceptable way to love when they grow up. However, young children… Continue reading Fantastic Tales of Polyamory
My upcoming book Catch and Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life delves into the science of love. Researching and writing on this topic was alarmingly insightful, and I enjoyed it thoroughly. My book is on its way to being published, and I find myself missing the research as I fight my… Continue reading Variation in Human Sexuality
A Polyamorous Love Story 